by Rhys Jones
Dealing with anger is never easy, since people always have to face problems and reasons for conflict but our anger management technique is crucial. We have to deal with price increases, arguments, war, violence, crime, everyday common stupidity and continuous interruptions. There is not one person in this sometimes difficult world that has not gotten mad at some point.
Anger is a feeling that we all have to deal with. But anger comes in many forms: the root of anger is hatred, anxiety or frustration as a result of previous deception or disappointment. It is a result of anger management technique. This is true. However, true or not, even in the Bible it says that when the first man and woman were created on Earth, the first incident was when Satan, in the form of a snake, lied, deceiving Eve. Once that lie became apparent, the world began experiencing many more problems, including violence, murder, war, shortages, disease, weather disasters and so forth.
Ever since that first lie, the world has become more and more chaotic and continues to worsen as the years roll past. We can look at how a lie can provoke anger by looking at an individual case. A person engaged in criminal activities, such as stealing, writing bad checks, and selling prescription medications. Now this person felt she had to use deception, since she felt that her behaviour and actions were her only means of survival.
So, she started lying to cover up her wrong-doing. As time went by, she became angry and could not deal with life, simply as a result of her under-developed anger management technique, the way she was behaving, her way of thinking, and the rest. The person began to act as anyone else suffering from uncontrolled anger would act.
This included, putting others down, insulting others, verbally and physically assaulting, threatening, belittling and mocking others. The woman was diagnosed with a mental disorder, Post traumatic Stress Disorder and Bipolar. She also had health issues, including diabetes. Now if we look at all the aspects of that person’s anger and her anger management technique, we can see, if we search look enough, that her lying, which caused paranoia, was the root cause of her behavioral problems.
A lot of people have a problem with their anger management technique. Many of the people with post-traumatic stress disorder behave angrily because they are reacting to a flashback in memory. That is right! People with post traumatic stress disorder often repress their emotions and when they are violent or angered, it is often the result of fighting the sources that caused their trauma and not the person in their presence.
But the problem is that, we do not see this as the reason for the woman’s fury, since she did not make the problem public knowledge. Therefore, people would exclude post traumatic stress disorder as the cause, or at least reduce the possibility of it. So, now let’s take a look at diabetes, since this illness affects the nerves. The shortage of insulin creates other problems too, but many people with diabetes will become upset for practically no reason whatsoever.
However, most people do not act angrily, assault, insult or attack others . If we examine why crimes are committed, we see that very often, serious behavioural problems come from having told lies. Therefore, when we look at this woman’s case again, we can see that we have to deal with the underlying causes that is her lying and get her to move on, avoiding episodes of frustration, anxiety and anger by using some form of anger management technique.
However, this person is in denial, which means that until the legal system forces her to study anger management technique, she probably will not get seek herself. Furthermore, even if the criminal justice system does force her to get assistance, it probably won’t work, because she has been in denial for undoubtedly many years. So, now we are dealing with a real problem in anger management technique , since her behaviour has been life long, which means extensive therapy isrequired.
Anger is a normal emotion, but when it interferes with another person’s life, it becomes a serious problem. This person is not hurting only one person, she is hurting everyone, because when she steals or writes bad cheques, society pays through higher taxes, as well as other levies. One of the biggest things that I have noticed with this type of person, is that the system and society allows it to continue; only addressing it when the person is in custody. Once the person is released, then it starts again. This is a chain of events involving lack of control due to anger mis-management and bad anger management technique.